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First Date Tips and Tricks For All You Ladies

We’ve gotten past step one, he asked you out or you asked him and you’ve agreed on a date and time. What now?! What do you wear, how do you accessorize, how do you do your hair and makeup, what do you talk about? Deep breath, I got your back. Let’s take it from the top:

Don’t alter your appearance too much

We all like to get dolled up for our dates, but try and not overdo it. You want him to see you, maybe a bit enhanced. Go easy on the makeup, you don’t need to put on the heaviest foundation you’ve got, and you most certainly don’t need to schedule an appointment with a professional makeup artist! Make sure your hair is clean and brushed, but apart from that, you can do whatever you’d like. Try and show who you are, and follow your own style!

“I’ve got nothing to wear!”

what to wear on a first date

Okay, the floor of your bedroom is covered in dresses and blouses and you’re sitting in the middle of it in your underwear. It’s okay, we’ve all been there! Nobody can tell you exactly what to wear, but here are a few guidelines you should stick to:

  • Don’t stray from your own style – Nobody says that you have to wear a dress if jeans and a plaid shirt are your thing!
  • Keep a little mystery – Don’t put everything out there. If you’re going with something tight, make sure it covers you up; and if you’re going with something short, or with deep cleavage, try and make it a looser fit.
  • Clean, ironed, comfortable and whole – These are quite self-explanatory. You should be following these every day, not just for date night!


nervous before the date

So is he! No matter how confident they look, everybody gets butterflies in their stomach when they’re about to go on a first date. No matter whether it’s because you feel you are inexperienced, or because you are just coming back into the dating scene after a long time, being nervous is totally normal and nothing that you should get even more nervous about! Be confident and let your beauty shine through. He’ll be nervous too, and maybe coming out and saying it out loud can be a good ice breaker! If you were wondering how to make a guy fall in love with you right away, there’s your answer – be confident and honest.

Nothing to talk about?

Not true! It’s your first date – you have the world to discover about each other. Find out about their interests, hobbies, whether they like blue cheese or not and do they have any siblings! Ask and tell and let the conversation naturally flow. Stuck? Awkward silences are the worst, but they don’t have to kill the mood! Make sure that if there is ever an awkward silence, you don’t start staring at your phone, or around the room. Start talking about the best topic ever – food! It is literally endless!

coffee date

Red and green flags

During your date, make sure you remember his opinions and standpoints on things that are important to you, whether that be family, career or sports. Make sure you don’t start and argument about the first thing you disagree on, and don’t give up on him after the first less than perfect answer. Give him at least one chance to correct himself!

Lastly, remember that it’s just a couple hours, and while you both will make an impression, you shouldn’t judge someone just based on that! If it was a complete disaster, you’ll simply never see him again, but if there is a spark, you will want to remember that night forever.

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  • Oh gosh, I’m married and it’s been awhile since the whole first-date time in my life. This is so cute. Actually, could apply to those of us who have been married too, though. Rediscovering each other regularly is important!

  • I’m a gabber so the conversation part has never been a problem for me. Now, I’ve been married for a few years now but I still feel like I could get a rock to talk. 😉 Anyways, when I was dating, I never wanted to put every effort in every time I saw them–that just wasn’t me. If you go 100% all the time, you have nowhere to go but down. I just stayed me. I wore my comfy clothes or my jeans with a t-shirt (unless it was a nicer date) and I certainly didn’t cake on a lot of makeup because I would never do that any other time.

  • Gosh…it’s been a while since I thought about first dates. I do remember being nervous though. Your tips are all great. I recently had a date night with my husband for the first time in forever. The nerves were there again! LOL

  • I talk sooooo much, I remember being nervous on my first date with my now husband. I didn’t want to talk too much, and we started talking about sports, I was wondering if he was going to tell me to shut up LOL. I also remembering having a pimple! Gosh that was horrible, but it worked out thankfully!

  • These are great tips! I am so glad I don’t have to go on first dates anymore. I was never good at them to begin with. I was always so awkward, but hey, that is what my husband likes about me!

  • First dates used to bring me such anxiety! The first date I went on with my husband was such a fun time. We had pizza and drove around trying to find something to do, and it ended up being a fun night where we talked all night!

  • VERY good tips! My favorite is #1 don’t alter your appearance too much. So many reasons why this is a great tip and only benefits both people in the long run. Women should not HAVE to alter who they are or how they look and men should not have to be surprised when things change lol

  • Oh my gosh I have been with my husband for awhile now, but I remember our first date like it was yesterday! Great tips! We have been so busy with our kids and jobs these days that I would imagine going on a date again together would feel like the first date… and I will have to apply some of these tips!

  • Oh my goodness .. I wish I would have had your post five years ago before I met my husband. I tell you what .. dating isn’t for the faint of heart. I think I’ll invite him out this weekend just because .. and I’ll keep all of the things you said in mind!

  • My husband and I have been together for 15 years, so I don’t see myself going on a first date anytime soon. I can’t even imagine trying to date again! These tips would have been so helpful years ago!

  • My first date with my husband was only my 3rd-ever first date. I had my 4th-ever first date in-between my first and second date with my husband. I’m glad not to worry about dating anymore, but my handful of first dates were fun!

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